About me

If you saw who I was 21 years ago you’d never believe I’d be here doing this. I definitely didn’t believe it. I was broken as broken could be. From early trauma I then went on to pick abusive/unhealthy relationships, but worse than that, I abandoned myself in every way possible. I tried every unhealthy coping mechanism from substances to self harm as a way to escape, but this only lead to more suffering.

I’ve healed to a point of being unrecognisable from that person, however my journey of healing hasn’t been smooth sailing and there have been more challenges and painful relationships along the way and I’ve spent many a night curled up in a ball led against a wall crying desperately for things to be different, hoping people would change.

But nearly 7 years ago something shifted hugely in me and I finally joined the dots as to why I had repeatedly ended up in toxic relationships. I realised that the relationship I had with myself defined my relationship to everything and everyone else. My cripplingly low self-esteem and attachment issues led to unhealthy/toxic relationships that had further fed the belief that I was never going to be enough.

I’m as human as the rest of us and still have my challenges. I don’t ever profess to have it all together as healing is a lifetime journey. But this realisation completely transformed my life and how I show up in the world. I studied and applied (till the cows came home) how to heal from trauma, low self-esteem and toxic relationships and my biggest desire is to see as many people as possible experience the same levels of freedom.

With everything I’ve experienced I can say beyond doubt that I would not be who I am today without these experiences (as cringingly cliché as that sounds). I’ve come to deeply love who I am, know my worth, be able to speak my truth, have healthy boundaries and find freedom from repeating painful cycles.